Conversation with the Heart

By: Dr. Lise Janelle

Lately the media have been constantly feeding us stories about the bad state of the world economy. I know that high drama creates more people buying newspapers and listening to the news but if we are not aware of it, it can also help create more of what it is scaring people into believing.

Support and challenge are constantly in balance. This past summer it was consistently in the news that the price of gasoline was going up and up. Now it is the lowest that it has been in years but there is no front page mention of that.  Through this  ‘bear market’ period, opportunities are being created that were not there before.  New values are being developed. I read an article recently about a woman who as a child experienced a fire in the forest near her home.  At first she had been extremely upset by it, but during the summer new bushes of blueberries grew that made her quite happy. It is the same thing with the economy.  When markets change, at first it feels like a catastrophe, but later on new opportunities manifest themselves that would not have been created otherwise.  It is important to keep a longer term vision and free ourselves from the emotions of the moment.

Until recently, we had been going through a fairly steady optimistic period in the economy and as a result people developed certain values. People tend to be more materialistic when they are optimistic about the economy; we spend a lot of time thinking about possessions. There is less gratitude for what we have as we take things more for granted. Children who once would not hesitate to ask for $150 pair of sneakers may now think twice and understand their parents better. People who once thought that their job was safe and secure for the rest of their life may now think about taking the courses and doing the upgrading they meant to be doing for a while, but hadn’t because it was more comfortable not to.

Is the economy really bad or is it simply going through a ‘restructuring?” Are we weaker now or are we taking care of obvious failures in the system that will make a global economy of the future stronger?

Perhaps we are simply developing new values that will help people live more from their heart.

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This weekend will be the launch of my book at the same time as Dr Joe Vitale from the movie The Secret. In a way I feel a bit like the ‘opening act’ for a famous rock band but I can’t wait to have my book out there to tell what I feel is a very important message. My hope is to touch the lives of as many people as I can to help them know at a deep level the joy that comes from connecting with the heart. Just like we need eyes to see and ears to hear, I am convinced that the only way that we can experience joy, fulfillment and a true sense of success is by learning to be connected with our heart.

This came from one of my coaching sessions today…He came him and told me he is suffering from a broken heart.

We often confuse need with love. When we lose something or someone we need as opposed to love, it hurts. When a client comes to see me and tells me that their heart is hurting, that there is so much pain in their heart, I know they are confusing their heart with their emotions. And when we do that, it causes distress because we feel like something is really wrong since our ‘heart is hurting’. But the heart only experiences love and gratitude. So when we are experiencing pain, grief, anger, jealousy, loss or even the extreme highs of elation and infatuation, we are actually experiencing an emotion. We only experience emotions when we either see more positives than negatives or more negative than positives in a situation. The truth is that, just like the yin and yang symbol expresses so well, there is always an equal and opposite balance of both in every situation.  If you support someone too much, they weaken. If you challenge someone a lot they get very strong. Both forces are necessary. If we have a tendency to stay within our comfort zone and cuddle ourselves too much, we experience great challenges in our life. If we follow our heart and take on the challenges necessary to fulfill it, we attract support… that’s the law of attraction. So, next time you face a situation and experience a lot of pain, take the time to find what is the benefit in what is happening. How are the circumstances actually helping you get what your heart truly desires?

I have a client who’s relationship is ending and he was really upset because he feels that he is ready for a committed relationship. His partner was not. Before she met him she had been in a 17 years long relationship. He sent ‘by mistake’ an email that was meant to me to her and because of it the relationship is ending. He was really distressed. He felt that he had made a big mistake. When I pointed to him that actually, since his heart is craving to be in a committed relationship and the one he was in was not going to satisfy that need, it was perfect. It was not a mistake. Sometimes we need to challenge ourselves to get what our heart wants. Out of love for ourselves and for others. If he really loves his girlfriend, he will understand that she needs to be true to her heart just like he needs to be true to his. If he comes from fear, than he is needy, he won’t want to let go because of the fear that he will never find someone else to love. But when we love and know that we are worthy of love, there is always love around us and inside of us. We experience love by loving others, not by waiting for others to give it to us….

Love and Light,

Dr. Lise